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Feeling overwhelmed when it comes to decluttering? The reason you’re feeling overwhelmed is the clutter itself, not the process of decluttering… trust me. Been there!! Probably be there again next week!!

The key, really, is to just start. But, I know firsthand that sometimes it’s hard to just get started, even if it sounds so simple!

Over the years, I’ve learned a few things that help my very easily overwhelmed mind calm down enough to get started and get stuff done. Which, incidentally, is the antidote to the overwhelm!

So, here they are, my top 5 tips and tricks for beating the shut-down that often comes when the clutter and mess are just a bit too much.

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how to declutter when you're feeling overwhelmed

1) Ask yourself this: Which ONE area would make the biggest difference in the overall peace of your home? Start there. 

This is sometimes a hard question to answer when there are so many places you could start. When there isn’t a clear answer, start with your own bedroom. 

Starting with my own room first is sometimes hard to do because I’d rather start at the front door and work my way in so that if someone were to drop in, they’d see an organized house even if behind closed doors it’s a little crazy. But trust me on this!!

Starting with a freshly made bed, tidied up surfaces and floors, laundry folded and put away and any lingering clutter busted in your own room makes way for a peaceful sleep ahead… a room to look forward to! You’re literally giving yourself the gift of peace to look forward to at the end of the day. Starting with tidying and then diving into the nooks and crannies, the drawers and closets and under the bed, etc, will make a HUGE impact.

And maybe it isn’t your bedroom that’s going to make the biggest difference – whatever the area you feel is going to make the biggest impact, be decisive and get to work. It all has to be done anyway – the only way to get it done is to start.

 

2) Make it easy by being prepared. Tidy up first. You’ll need a trash bag, donation bin/box, return to owner bag, etc.

organized bookshelfIt’s much easier to declutter a tidied room. Make the bed, clear the counters, quickly make piles of the chaos, round up all the trash and laundry – whatever it takes to give you some cleared surfaces to use in your decluttering. Gathering a trash bag, a donation bin or box, a “return to owner” bag, as well as a “put away” basket makes the process easier, too. I really like using laundry baskets and reusable grocery bags for my “return to owner” and “put away” piles.

Having a system in place really takes the guesswork out of it. Every item you touch is going to go into one of those categories – having the bins/baskets/bags in place and ready to go makes the process so much quicker, too! Oh, and don’t just leave things in bins around the house – commit to hauling them out TODAY. The job isn’t done until it’s done and the peace you’ll feel from accomplishing your task start-to-finish today will be HUGE!

 

3) Come up with a simple goal. You can pick up where you left off tomorrow.

I have the energy to declutter our entire house in one day like once every 5 years. It just isn’t realistic to think that you’ll get it all done at once. So, set a simple goal and pick up where you left off tomorrow. The overwhelm comes from trying to do it all, all at once. Which you can’t do… so stop expecting that of yourself. Instead, write a short list or a specific goal for TODAY. Worry about tomorrow, tomorrow!

 

4) Pick a drawer, any drawer. Or a shelf. Or a corner.

how to declutter when you're feeling overwhelmed

Similar to the other tips above, picking just one thing to tackle often gets the ball rolling for me. It might be one drawer, one cupboard, one craft bin or one shelf instead of the entire bookcase. Even when it’s hard to get started, picking something specific to do from start to finish usually makes it hard to stop there! It’s so satisfying to say “I’m going to tidy and declutter the silverware drawer,” and then to actually DO IT. Feels good, right?! And those good feels are fuel for the next project. Just remember not to bite off more than you can chew… I tend to get really distracted, so picking one place to work helps focus me.

5) Set a timer.

This is my best trick. I swear by timers and it’s been a great tool to help keep me on task and also to help control the anxiety and overwhelm I often feel when it comes to decluttering. You can do anything for 15 minutes – in fact, you can do SO MUCH more than you think you can. If you’ve never used timers to help keep you on task, give it a try.

15-minute increments seem to work best for me, but maybe you’re feeling especially overwhelmed today, so start with 5 minutes! I like to write a little list of what I’m hoping to accomplish, evaluate the list and write next to each item the amount of time I think I need to accomplish that task. Then, I set the timer and get going on the first one and work my way down the list, setting new timers for each item.

Sometimes a list is too much for me to think about – setting the timer and just getting started is all I can manage. In that case, set it, get to work, and stop when it goes off. Let that be enough for now! Only start the timer over if you really want to keep going. Keep it manageable/bite-sized work sessions so you don’t overwhelm yourself – or your home – with your decluttering process.

 

So, there you go! 5 tips and tricks to get you through the overwhelm and onto a more decluttered life.

Do you have other tips to share?! Leave them in the comments so we can all learn from each other!

xo, Carly

 

*Photos from PixaBay.com, a stock photography website.
I’ll be sharing more of my own home soon, along with inspiration from others like this! 🙂 

Years ago I found myself stressed out about what to get the kids for Christmas. Once I got started, I never knew where to stop. Trying to keep things even amongst the kids, if one ended up with one or two more gifts, that set me in a frenzy trying to find extra things for the others. I also found it super hard to stay on budget (assuming I even made a budget that year – many years, I didn’t!). Can you relate?!

Then, I learned about the 4-gift Christmas… you’ve probably heard of it. Something they want, something they need, something to wear, something to read. This sounded doable and less than I had been doing in past years. That first year doing the 4-gift Christmas, I couldn’t believe how easy it was to get my Christmas shopping done for the kids… and how much easier it was to stay on budget, too, even if I was panicked right up until gift-opening that the kids would be disappointed in receiving so little. To my surprise, they were thrilled and didn’t even notice that it was a smaller year than usual. We’ve done it this way ever since! From the first year, we’ve added a fifth gift, though, and that’s one from Santa.

Our family does things a little differently than the “norm”, I think. We open all of our family gifts that are wrapped and under the tree on Christmas Eve. Then, Christmas morning the best gift is sitting, unwrapped, under the tree from Santa. This is how my parents did it for my brother and me growing up and it was a tradition I wanted to keep for my own kids. It leaves Christmas day to be more about the family time than the unwrapping frenzy, and it seems to work well for us. So, on Christmas Eve, our kids open four gifts from mom and dad and then on Christmas morning they have one more special gift to look forward to finding under the tree, when they wake up. I’ll share exactly what we got for the kids this year, down below!

I love this 5-gift Christmas because I know when I’m done shopping – no sales can tempt me!! It also focuses me on what exactly do the kids need and what won’t end up being trash by New Years. It’s seriously such a sanity saver, and I feel that our Christmas has more meaning since making this switch, too. If you’re feeling stumped on how to make this work for your family, I thought I’d share what my thoughts were for each of the categories this year, as well as show you exactly what we got!

For the “something they want” category, this year, we went for new games we can play as a family for each of the kids. I’m really hoping this goes over well with them, and I think it will, because they’ve all mentioned wanting more fun things to do as a family. Family time is a great gift!!

“Something they need” is cracking me up this year – we got each of the kids socks. Yes. Socks!! I think giving a necessity like socks is such a great idea for Christmas. Kids love opening presents – it doesn’t really matter what’s inside. Receiving a simple necessity alongside the fun stuff helps remind the kids that even things like socks really are a gift! I think it helps keep the holiday a humble one.

This year, we mixed up the “something to wear” category and made it either something to wear or an experience gift. I’m so excited about this because that’s even one less thing entering our home this Christmas and instead a fun memory waiting to be made for the recipient. None of our three kids needed anything to wear this year, which is such a blessing, right?! It was stressing me out trying to figure out what clothing item to get them when they really are set with what they have – loved the idea of swapping it for an experience instead and I can’t wait to see what the kids think when they open those special gifts!!

For “something to read” I like to get the chapter-book-readers a boxed set series. It feels a little more special than just one book and it gives them something to really dig into during the remainder of Winter break. We’ve had many years, though, where one book was what they received and honestly I think they’re happy either way! For non-readers or younger readers, we have typically gotten a storybook collection, where there are multiple stories in one binding. They’re so great for bedtime stories and there are tons of awesome options out there nowadays.

The gift from Santa is usually the thing that they’ve been looking most forward to receiving, or hoping for the most… but that said, I’m not always able to make their wild wishes happen. This year, the kids are receiving things they’ve asked for but not necessarily exactly what they’ve been dreaming about. I always worry about that, I think every parent wants to make Christmas as magical as possible, but sometimes Santa knows best.

Next year, we are likely bunking this entire system and opting, instead, for one big experience gift for the whole family, plus the gifts from Santa. I love the idea of the kids each receiving their one special gift and doing something fun as a family with the rest of the Christmas budget. More experiences, fewer things! Do you have any ideas for a fun family experience?! I’d love to hear them!!

Ready to see what we got our three kids for Christmas this year, using the 5-gift Christmas plan? Here it is!!

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Want: Wackee Six Card Game

Need: Fruit of the Loom socks

Experience: A 2-day pottery class at our local arts center

Read: The Percy Jackson & the Olympians boxed set

 

Want: Math’d Potatoes game from Simply Fun

Need: Fruit of the Loom socks

Experience: Dinner & movie date night with a parent

Read: Fablehaven series boxed set

 

Want: Ice Hop game from Simply Fun

Need: Fruit of the Loom socks

Wear: Marvel Superhero Costumes

(Our little guy loves dressing up but has no cool costumes of his own.

I got these at Walmart the day after Halloween for so cheap – linking to something similar!)

Read: Disney Scary Storybook Collection

 

11-year-old girl gift: Ozobot Bit Coding Robot Kit

8-year-old girl gift: Perfect Petzzz Golden Retriever

4-year-old boy gift: Tonka Classic Steel Front-end Loader

I want to add that I do not think there’s any one right way to do Christmas. You do you!! Do what makes sense and what works for you. This is simply something that I needed. I needed to know when to say “I’m done!” and this system makes it so easy for me to make sure I’ve covered my bases without going overboard. I needed to cut down on the clutter coming into my home. This system keeps me in check and makes sure that the kids are getting a variety of things, without receiving just a bunch of toys. Lastly, I needed to keep the budget in check – this system has helped so much because I know the exact number of items I’m purchasing, making it easier to ball-park the amount I can spend on each individual item. Plus, the kids are happy. Win, win, win!! What do you think?! I’d love to hear what works for YOUR family, and if you’ve tried this system or something similar, share your experiences in the comments!!

 

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Hey there!! I’m Carly… and I’m not a minimalist.

Not naturally, anyway. It’s like forcing a square peg into a round hole, adapting my cluttered crazy life into something simpler, slower, more intentional.

Moderate Minimalist was born out of my commitment to living with less in order to live more. Over the last several years, I’ve effectively downsized my family’s belongings by 50-70%… I mean, I didn’t weigh it or anything… but we are living with a lot less. However, being a natural collector and having three children that seem to share this proclivity for thing-keeping has resulted in a home that’s continually in a state of flux. One day, I’ll be breathing the satisfied sighs of a balanced home and life… the next, I’m hyperventilating in the fetal position among the Legos and books and clothes…

It’s a constant struggle. And that’s what Moderate Minimalist (this blog) is all about. Full-blown minimalism is simply not realistic for my family, nor is it something I feel compelled to reach for. The idea of a simpler, slower life, though? Minimalism in moderation? THAT is what my heart is drawn to, in more areas than just my material possessions.

So, what is Moderate Minimalism?

Now… I haven’t read an “official” definition, but this is what “moderate minimalism” looks like to me, in all the important areas of my life:

  • HOME – Simple, organized, easy to maintain; belongings that are practical and loved
  • HEALTH – Whole, simple eating and gentle fitness routines that result in overall physical and mental wellness
  • FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS – A focus on togetherness, experiences and memory making
  • FINANCES – Debt-free, intentional use of every dollar
  • TIME – Living intentionally, using time wisely

I am not there yet… not even close. But, every day I’m striving to not only embrace the perfectly imperfect life I’m living but to also work toward the moderate minimalism I’m so drawn to. I believe firmly that if you can’t stop thinking about something… there’s a reason, you need to listen to that. Moderate minimalism is that voice that won’t shut up in my head, telling me to live more intentionally in every facet of my life – living more with less. Less junk, fewer bad habits, less time wasted, less debt… that’s the road I’m on.

I’m here to share my journey with you, and if possible, to help you achieve moderate minimalism, too!

Let’s do this together.